Truly, there’s a fine line between stubbornness and stupidity.
Stubbornness makes us persevere.
In a world where conformity is normal, it helps us stand our ground when everyone else is trying to tell us that we are wrong.
Used with discernment, stubbornness can be a strong leadership quality and a key determinant of success in different areas of one’s life. Because stubborn people know what they want, they tend to be more decisive with fewer dangling options.
People often describe being stubborn as though it is ONLY bad.
Being stubborn can also be a good thing. Normalize that line of thought and applaud the people who do not conform or give up too easily.
Also, be open enough to acknowledge people who are different from other people you’ve encountered in your life.
You can go “wow, you are so different” instead of expecting them to treat you the same you were treated by other people in the past.
Because X did this and that for you does not mean that Y will do it for you.
You don’t even need to remind Y that X did this and that for you in the past.
You are not entitled to the sameness of X’s experience from Y.
Enjoy and experience the moments with Y in peace. Unnecessary comparisons can become unhealthy.
Everyone is different, never expect the same thing from everyone.
You can reflect on the memories of what it felt like to be with X but don’t try to guilt-trip Y into transforming themselves to become X to suit your preferences.
Be with Y happily or go back to X or find X reloaded.
The Peoples Girl, Nkaiso.